WEDDINGS...by JANE

Husbands are Great but a Wife… a wife is twice as nice ©

This picture was taken a few years ago on Cocoa Beach in Florida. The reflection in my sunglasses is of the same guy I’ve had in my sights since I was 15 and if I may say so the view has only become clearer and more beautiful as the years have flown by.

Marriage can only endure when the couple has the same goals and focus their sights on the same views.

I only have eyes for you and I’m excited to share the views throughout our retirement years.

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Jane Elaine™

Catch of the Day Wedding Topper - Gotta LUV IT! Dedicating this post to my hubby!

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Husbands are Great - but a Wife… a wife is twice as nice ©

• He never forgets our one special date.

Today is our aniversary.  I remember it with chills and joy. It’s so wonderful to know that the day we married is a very special date to him too.  He never forgets.  Today he woke me up with a card and gifts on my pillow.  Even after all these years he remembers and tells me it was the most wonderful day of his life.  He makes me feel like the years have not accumulated but have melted into that one special day that we share.  This one is as memorable as the 1^st, 2^nd, 3^rd,……and beyond.  Our commitment to us is what makes us work.

 

A good marriage cannot exits where you and I take priority over us.

 

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Jane Elaine™

Husbands are Great - but a Wife… a wife is twice as nice ©

• Friendship is Key!

He walks in the house with a bag of Chinese.  “Here’s dinner,” he says, “you sounded down when I called so I thought I’d take care of dinner”.  

Not just seeing your mood but hearing it in your voice and jumping to make it better is a great sign of friendship. Marriage isn’t an institution it’s a friendship.  Don’t take it for granted, savor it.

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Jane Elaine™

Husbands are Great but a Wife… a wife is twice as nice ©

    The look and feel of love is not always wrapped in Tiffany Blue.

 

Quite a while ago my sister-in-law had to go back to our hometown for a couple weeks to be with her mother leaving her hubby home to fend for himself.  She made sure he had clean clothes and some staples in the kitchen so he wouldn’t starve, packed up the car and with a girlfriend made the 8 hour journey back home.  Every evening they talked on the phone to keep up with each other’s day and as the two weeks came to an end they both looked forward to her ETA back home.  She arrived home early in the day while my brother-in-law was still at work.  She and her girlfriend unpacked the car and proceeded into the house.  What they found was what just about any wife would find.  Wet towels on the bathroom floor, newspapers strewn on the family room floor and the kitchen in a less then appealing sight with dirty dishes in the sink and counters filled with things that should be in the cupboard or pantry.  Her girlfriend remarked that, “I guess he thinks it’s your job to clean up after him since you haven’t been home for a couple weeks”.  “No,” she said “he’s just showing me how much he needs me”.

This is not a newly married couple, they’ve been married 36 years, but my sister-in-law still has that new bride twinkle in her eye and love in her heart when she sees or speaks of her hubby.   She doesn’t get caught up in the little irritating things of life that can cause arguments and unnecessary stress.  You see, true love can see and find ‘the love’ through the clutter of life, creating a safe haven for love to grow and endure.

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Jane Elaine™

Husbands are Great but a Wife… a wife is twice as nice ©

• In Marriage, even the most inconsequential white lie will come back and bite you.

Operating a bridal store for over 25 years, I come across many different marriage dilemmas.  Not long ago one of my brides asked me to exchange the size of her dress label for one that stated that the dress was a size 10.  She said her dream was always to be a size 10 and what better time than for her wedding.  I said no problem and I had my seamstress exchange the sizing tags.  The bride picked up her dress and had a beautiful wedding.

I didn’t give it another thought until she brought her dress back for heirlooming about six months later.  She said her wedding was wonderful and she was very happy.  Then she related this story to me.  “She related they had their first Christmas together and her husband bought her beautiful gifts.  She said after opening all the gifts she asked him whatever made him think she was a size 10?  He said he looked in her wedding gown that was hanging in the closest and since they were only married a month before Christmas the size should be right.  Oh, she said. Explained the difference in bridal sizing, thanked him for the gifts and returned them for the appropriate sizes.”   I asked if she wanted the sizing changed before heirlooming.  “No, she said, in years to come I want everyone to know that I was a size 10 bride.” 

In marriage I guess you have to decide how important that white lie is and how the consequences might affect the relationship. But when it comes to weight, age and size I’m sure over the years white lies will stretch with our waistlines.  In this particular situation it’s mind over matter.  If you don’t mind then does it really matter?

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Jane Elaine™

Husbands are Great but a Wife… a wife is twice as nice ©

 

• Laughter is great to wake up to. 

This morning I woke up to my husband kissing me goodbye on my cheek.  Usually I’m up but today he decided to be very quiet and not wake me up.  Surprising, since he doesn’t like to do anything alone.  I jumped out of bed and asked all the questions, “do you have your cell phone, computer, keys, wallet, money, what about your cup of coffee?”  He informed me that he would stop at McDonalds.  “What”, I said, “you love the coffee from the Keurig coffee pot I bought you for Christmas”.  “Yes”, he said, “but I’m out of the kitchen until all the mice are gone”.   “I’m on a Mouse Diet, for better or worse richer or poorer but no mice termination” he said.  As I was laughing my … off I started thinking.  It sure is a good thing I’m living in this time in history.  If I was a damsel in the Medieval times and my father said that my suitors had to kill a dragon for my hand, I could probably have kissed this suitor goodbye.

For the past two weeks I’ve been catching mice that have set up their favorite restaurant in our panty.  So my advice on marriage is to respect your mate’s boundaries and laugh.  We were meant for each other.  I’m the mice terminator, he brings home the cheese.  

I probably would have slayed the dragon for him and fib to my dad.

But the “Mouse Diet” has given me ideas for keeping the laughter in this quirky, happy marriage.

 

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Jane Elaine™

Husbands are Great but a Wife… a wife is twice as nice ©

• Fridays are my “wife for a day” experience.

Friday, the most wonderful day of the week. At 8 AM every Friday I hear bells of joy.  Ding Dong, my face breaks out into a huge smile. My stomach tingles just like it did when my guy would pick me up for a date, soooo many years ago.  Ding Dong, ah that wonderful chime again.   It’s the door bell! My Molly Maids are here.  Today I get to experience what it is like to have a clean house without lifting my finger.  And I want no one to come into the house before I do tonight.  It's such a wonderful feeling to walk into your house and see nothing out of place & smelling wonderful.  Of course if my husband reads this he’ll say, “right- you got up at 6 AM to clean toilets, run the sweeper and wash out the microwave so the cleaning people won’t think you keep a messy house”.  Oh well, there’s some things a wife just can’t get past.

 

After almost 42 years of marriage I thought I’d post some insights of a happy marriage from after the honeymoon and on into the golden years.

 

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Jane Elaine™